So happy to be at home with the family.
Celebrating mummy's birthday tonite.
Miss the food;-)
OldTown coffee
Boyfriend said " Wei, what are you doing??irritating la"
Yazid is just tired from a whole day 'meeting'Ok, to start off the night, me and the Boyfriend went to Queensbaymall and we ate KFC.......................again...Then, Yazid called the Boyfriend asking whether me and him are going for the prom night or not...I checked my phone and as usual, there's a misscall and I have the tendency of not hearing my phone...Lame....Then, Khang called and asked us to meet him at OldTown Coffee shop...After buying my milk and toothbrush(on sale), we head to OldTown... Riana, Abigail (*lame*), Dinesh and Khang were already there...Riana had to go back as it was quite late and she will have to sent Abigail home...We chatted for a while and mainly about the prom...Khang was a bit hesitate to go...Not appropriate to mention the reason as it might offend some party....Since Dinesh and Yazid are tired, we decided to call off the nite at about 12am...
I'm going back to Perlis today as mummy's birthday tomorrow...
I've been having this headache since yesterday and it does not feel good...
Went to LV's(an old college-mate) house for her Deepavali open house...She invited me few days back...Her house was gorgeous....She moved in about a year ago...It was nice to see her again...
By the way, I bedazzled my camera with the gem sticker that I bought few days back..hahah.. the best part is I did it in my office and during working hours...Fun leh...I don't think I'm gonna have time to even daydream once I start to work in the new company...Got inspired by a blogger who bedazzled her PDA..It was cute...
By the way, I bedazzled my camera with the gem sticker that I bought few days back..hahah.. the best part is I did it in my office and during working hours...Fun leh...I don't think I'm gonna have time to even daydream once I start to work in the new company...Got inspired by a blogger who bedazzled her PDA..It was cute...
bangkok, here we come.
Well, IMed Khang just now. Told him about my plan for a vacation in Bangkok as well as to buy some stuff for my blogshop. I told him that I wanted to get serious with m blogshop and if everything goes well, I might go fulltime on that...but let me be comfotable and stabile in my upcoming new job...I hope it goes well and i can catch-up with everything new...
I told him we're not going yet but we still need to plan so that we can buy some time to save up some money...I told him my budget is around RM1000 and he said it is way too high..I told him that it is because I need to buy some stuff for the blogshop as well...RM500 is enough for him, I said...And he agreed...He said at least can save some money and he need to apply for a passport..*shame*..I'm bad....
Anyway, another story is, went to GP yesterday note to watch G Force 3D. It was fun and hilarious and not to mention, they're so damn cute...I wish I could train Russell and Max to be super spy...That is so lame and impossible...So we reached GP at about 8.30...Went straight to the cinema to buy tickets and I thought I was clever enough to think that ticket was supposed to be cheaper as it was movie day (every Wednesday) and I was wrong...Pity the Boyfriend...Ticket still remain at RM30 (for 3D movies)...On teh way down, we passed by some small booth and some glitter sticker caught my attention..So I bought as attached in the above picture...Cut that...Then, we went to A&W as I was thinking of eating their special promo, rice with daging/ayam masak lemak cili api...It was superb but sadly they said the promo has ended...So I ate chicken waffle with curly fries and the Boyfriend ate double mozza burger with fries...We shared the drink....
Movie finished ata round 11pm...We stopped by Yunus maggi goreng and headed home....* islept like a pig*...
Another thing is, I've been working here for 6 months and some people still don't know who the should refer to for room booking. Isn't that sound f***ing lame...Am I invisible or what...??? I've cleaning up the pantry, walking down the hall to collect your f***ing submissions, go up and down to entertain your request, doing deco for the building and etc. This is a strong reason why I'm leaving this company..I can't tolerate these people's nonsense anymore...And heaven sake Mr.V, why would I not submit your expenses claim??? Will I get money in return if I sabotaged your claim...If you do not trust me, you should not have gave me responsibilities at the first place...Instead of asking me to do, it is better for you to do it yourself rite????....But it's ok, I'm leaving YOU soon and you'll have your peace of mind...and I pray that the new job I'm getting will be a lot better than here...
scatter through old pictures
I got these photos when the Boyfriend went for his badminton session, before I went to bed. These pictures are taken back in college years (i think its 2007)...This was during our dance audition for 2007 prom nite....We were chosen, ok....So while waiting for other dancers to perform their routine, I took out my lappie and called to rest for a photo session...When there's Delon, there's always stupid things to do...Ahahahaha..He's hilarious I'm telling you...I'll be working in the same company as him starting next month...Ahahaha..This gonna be great, I hope so.
I missed those days but everyone has gone on their own separate ways as all of us has graduated...But we still keep in touch as these are the fun group back at that time...Same class, same project, same hang-out place, same assignment...The only time we're not together is bedtime...Imagine that...College years was awesome minus the exams and assignments...Hate that part...
Talked to Lina yesterday and planned for the upcoming graduation dinner...I'm so fucking excited....
This graduation means a lot to the family especially mummy as she put high hopes on me and Adik...One more to go(dianah)...This marked another new chapter of my life..I'm planning to start my Masters studies a.s.a.p...To complete the missing pieces and also one of my other millions of goal in my life...Sounds stunning isn't it...Well, I have many plans and goals but pathetically I'm lazy....
Saw a picture of a blogger who went for a vacation in Bangkok...Perhaps I should there one day.. And I'm planning on getting some clothes over there for my blogshop...
i'm in the middle of the crossroad
Sadly said that I'm torn between 2 choices on whether to accept a job offer by D or stay in my current job. There are pros and cons actually...The cons of sticking to my current job is there's no way that I'll improve my skills (if i have one)...Easier said, it is a dead end job....Honestly speaking, boring....
I've asked opinions from a few people (daddy, the Boyfriend, Khang and Jay) and one thing in common that they said...'I can't make the decision for you. If you think you can handle it and easily adapt to new working environment, then take it. You can't be afraid of taking some rish forever'. Honestly, it doesn't help at all... But with the pay that I get now, I can't save...I'm going to further my studies and the possibilities of not wanting to take a study loan is high as I've already in debt with my current loan (RM30k++ to be exact)..How the hell am I gonna pay off this debt with the pay I'm getting now???
Plus, I want to be a good daughter(*laughing and coughing*)...I planned to give some money to mummy to be kept aside (i know they won't use it) so that I won't be a big-spender....And maybe save some for future use(marriage????)or rainy days....Not that I don't like my current job(aside with the annoying people), problem is I'm going no where and there is nothing to do with what I studied.. The new job offer pays quite a sum compare to current one but high pay comes with a great resposibility.
I've asked opinions from a few people (daddy, the Boyfriend, Khang and Jay) and one thing in common that they said...'I can't make the decision for you. If you think you can handle it and easily adapt to new working environment, then take it. You can't be afraid of taking some rish forever'. Honestly, it doesn't help at all... But with the pay that I get now, I can't save...I'm going to further my studies and the possibilities of not wanting to take a study loan is high as I've already in debt with my current loan (RM30k++ to be exact)..How the hell am I gonna pay off this debt with the pay I'm getting now???
Plus, I want to be a good daughter(*laughing and coughing*)...I planned to give some money to mummy to be kept aside (i know they won't use it) so that I won't be a big-spender....And maybe save some for future use(marriage????)or rainy days....Not that I don't like my current job(aside with the annoying people), problem is I'm going no where and there is nothing to do with what I studied.. The new job offer pays quite a sum compare to current one but high pay comes with a great resposibility.
Updated version : handed in my resignation letter...Ok don't say anything. Talked to supervisor on my decision and she adviced me that made me thinking twice again...But at least I can get rid of my dead-end job and need not to see Mr.V's ass-face again...Btw, he complained to Ms.J that the pantry is out of sugar...Is he blind???Are you blind, Mr.V???..Whatever, I'm not gonna see you anymore after this...Say what ever you want.
weekend was random and mummy's upcoming birthday.
Well, watched Sorority Row on Saturday and Surrogate on Sunday. It was ok...Looking at the Sorority Row poster would definitely make you think that this is a lame cheap budget movie but wrong...It is a thriller movie and you should watch it...
Surrogate was ok too...I would love to have a Surrogate to do my job and I'll be sitting at home.
But you still have to work with your mine... ;-(
Went to USM on Saturday afternoon hoping that we could enquire some info on Master's program and it was my idea to go at 12pm and I thought I was smart (me, the Boyfriend and Khang)...Upon reaching there, we tried to push the door and it was locked...The Boyfriend gave me the one-kind of stare....hahahaha..he asked me to walked back home...hahhaha... enough said...So the 3 of us decided to have lunch in KFC at QBM...Then went back home as we
Mummy called me on Friday and asking whether I'm going back this weekend or not as it is her birthday and I was like ' Shit, I forgot'....How a good daughter I can be...*wonder*...So I decided to go back this weekend instead of next week...
Went for an interview last Friday. Went quite well. Hopefully I'll get that job.
I'm getting married....woohoo
Gotcha!!! Some of my friends must be pissing in their pants I guess...Sweat not, I'm NOT getting married yet....I still have long way to go to achieve my personal goals...Damn...Anyway, met Diana at Caltex Greenlane to pass her the dress that she reserved through my blogshop. She just finishes her drama training at some production company (dunno where izit)..We chatted quite a while...So happy to see her....Seems that she's happy with her life now...FYI, the Boyfriend sent me there as I'm too lazy to ride bike or drive a car...Typical me...Its good isn't it to have someone that will do everything for you...
Ok, a cousin of mine is getting married this month and I can't be there..*sorb*...I can still meet her for raya..which is.....................2010...Hahaha..We grew up together and do almost everything together...I missed those days when the 3 of us were having lotsa fun..I learned in line skating from them actually...It was scary...Damn scary...One of them will be holding me and another one will be oushing me slowly from my back...UURRGGHH....Everyone's growing up now...Don't know when is my turn to get married but marriage is not something you can fool around...You can't simply get a divorce if your feeling towards your partner is getting dull....FYI, its 2 years 1 days of our anniversary...I'm very excited on this actually....Never thought that me and the Boyfriend could last this long....
Its Thursday and I can't wait for Saturday to come..Not because I go hang out or what but to get a good sleep..
Ok, a cousin of mine is getting married this month and I can't be there..*sorb*...I can still meet her for raya..which is.....................2010...Hahaha..We grew up together and do almost everything together...I missed those days when the 3 of us were having lotsa fun..I learned in line skating from them actually...It was scary...Damn scary...One of them will be holding me and another one will be oushing me slowly from my back...UURRGGHH....Everyone's growing up now...Don't know when is my turn to get married but marriage is not something you can fool around...You can't simply get a divorce if your feeling towards your partner is getting dull....FYI, its 2 years 1 days of our anniversary...I'm very excited on this actually....Never thought that me and the Boyfriend could last this long....
Its Thursday and I can't wait for Saturday to come..Not because I go hang out or what but to get a good sleep..
2nd anniversary
Clearance sale, so visit us now.
Dear Boyfriend : Happy 2nd year Anniversary...May our years and days to come fill with joy and happiness..I still used and will always love you. Thank you for the happiness you bring for the past years. Thank you for all the emotional support that you have given me through the tough time that I went through before. Thank you for being a listener and a shoulder to cry on. Thank you for standing up for me and being by my side when ever I needed you.
Yeay, today is my second year aniiversary with the Boyfriend. We wished each other twice (yesterday nite and this morning,hahaha)...So excited...Sadly we would have to differ our celebration to other day as $ is a concern now...Anyway, most important is we have each other.. Honestly, I did not think that we could make it untill today as we often fight with each other when we first declared our relationship...I see no future in it...Hahaha..But now, we are happily as it seem...Thank you God...I pray that we can bring this into another level...
I feel anxious, moody, sad, excited, etc..Dunno why and don't ask...the Boyfriend always says that I'm not good in controlling my emotions...He said when he first saw me in CF(working part time), I looked very snooby at first glance...Then later on, he said, I'm quite friendly. It is just that my face doesn't show it...How can I??? I have class from morning till evening, then rushed to workplace(did not have time to go back first), worked till wee hours, and sometimes when they're short of manpower, I'm the first one they would call and I never say no...I worked on Friday, Saturday and Sunday (days that supposedly partimers should cover but obviously, they're the demanding ones, bluek) and sometimes I worked the whole week;-( (bcoz it seems that these full timers are always on MC, wth)...But I'm ok with it as I thought 'Hei, why not help them,maybe they'll appreciate me'...But guess I was wrong...No one ever sees the good things I have done for them...So I quit the job....Cut the crap...
Chatted with Kamini just now and said there'a vacancy in PDC...Might be going to USM this weekend with Khang..No so sure yet...I'm so excited about the convocation...Plan to meet Lyna as well....This graduation is truly gonna be damn fun as my batch are graduating together. Will be going for the graduation dinner...OOHH, so happy...
its a total disaster and I need a break...seriously
Came to office quite late as I was stuck in a jam due to rain...UURRGHH!!!... Accidentally left the storage key in the room and will have to call locksmith to open it up...Bad news is, I might have to bear the cost of RM30 (the money can be use for a few days)...As my money is a bit tight, therefore, every single cent count...I was having headache on how to edit and add a nuffnang adbox into my page, so I gave up...Things have not been going great for me and I'm very piss at the moment...Feels like banging my head on my table....(p/s: Ms.J helped me to open the door, save my money).
I don't know why I feel so exhausted for the past few weeks...I don't feel like coming to work and feel very tired...Played with Max and Russell so that Max could get use to my smell...They're so cute...Anyway, I posted a reherseal video for prom nite'07...I did a mistake during the actual day...Usual me...Prom nite is around the corner and I don't feel like dressing up like usual mron dress..I'm thinking of flare grey color pants, a shirt tuck in and heels...Something chic I can say..
I have the pants, it needs to be alter..But I'm not sure whether I'll attend this year's rpom or not...The group are going I guess except Fifi...She's not sure yet..
I don't know why I feel so exhausted for the past few weeks...I don't feel like coming to work and feel very tired...Played with Max and Russell so that Max could get use to my smell...They're so cute...Anyway, I posted a reherseal video for prom nite'07...I did a mistake during the actual day...Usual me...Prom nite is around the corner and I don't feel like dressing up like usual mron dress..I'm thinking of flare grey color pants, a shirt tuck in and heels...Something chic I can say..
I have the pants, it needs to be alter..But I'm not sure whether I'll attend this year's rpom or not...The group are going I guess except Fifi...She's not sure yet..
Gossip people and movie
Ok, starts with the pictures posted. As you can see, me, the Boyfriend, Khang and Nazya went out for a movie...The Perfect Getaway...Directed by David Twohy. Cast: Steve Zahn, Milla Jovovich, Timothy Olyphant, Kiele Sanchez, Marley Shelton, Chris Hemsworth, Anthony Ruivivar, Dale Dickey....The movie was a thriller even though it was rated 2 stars by some reviewers...You should watch it...
We reach G.Plaza at about 4... Supposedly it was a 3pm date....Hahahah..Nazya reached there first and she took her lunch all by herself...Ok, so Khang did not have his lunch yet so we decided to have it at A&W....It was suppose to be Khang's lunch only but as usual how could one resist food...So me and the Boyfriend ordered too...Hahahha....The four of us were gossiping...Sadly Fifi could not make it..If not, she'll be a plus point of the gossip session...hahaha..Mind that Fifi...
After movie, Nazya decided that she should head back home as she stays in the mainland...We said ok and drive safely...We sent Khang home and we headed to QBM...We walked around and the Boyfriend accompanied me having my dinner in food court (we're out of idea on where we should eat)....He bought Ribena for drink...After that, the Boyfriend felt like eating Hot n Roll. He ate for himself as I was damn full....As we not know where to go, we headed home and the Boyfriend continued playing his game...ppuuff...
I'm having headache of trying to edit my templates...
last day of the week and I'm waiting for the weekend
Attended Mooncake Festival at my previous college...It was OK...Organized by the UNITAR chinese student association...The best part was, entrance and food are free ;-)...ahahaha... Bumped into Nazya and Jamil and we were goossiping (buat dosa wei) about someone... I asked them out on Sunday for movie....By the way, told the Boyfriend that I wanted to go USM tomorrow to enquire about my Masters application....Walk in is better than applying online... Supposed to go with Khang but all of a sudden he said, most probably he'll have to go back to his hometown tomorrow to ask his parents whether they are going for his graduation or not...puff...
One more thing, Nazya and Khang were showing off their new hp E75 and I'm sooo jealous... Shoukd have accepted the Boyfriend's idea of wanting to buy me a new Sony Ericsson Xperia... I was stupid as usual ;-(.... Went back and I told the Boyfriend :
Me : B ar, I see Nazya hp very cantik la..When you have the moey, buy for me ar??
Boyfriend : Why wanna buy new one?
Me : Then? everybody have new hp..Some more now the flip type like IM phone is so in
Boyfriend : So what?? If I buy new one for you, you'll drop it and my poket only sakit.
Me : B ar, ayooo!!!
Boyfriend : Last time, when I wanna buy for you the Experia you said ' Nevermind B,my hp can still be use'. I know you'll regret one...
See what I mean...He can read my mind...*sad*
Last week and this week has been a tiring week... I hope it would be better next week...
One more thing, Nazya and Khang were showing off their new hp E75 and I'm sooo jealous... Shoukd have accepted the Boyfriend's idea of wanting to buy me a new Sony Ericsson Xperia... I was stupid as usual ;-(.... Went back and I told the Boyfriend :
Me : B ar, I see Nazya hp very cantik la..When you have the moey, buy for me ar??
Boyfriend : Why wanna buy new one?
Me : Then? everybody have new hp..Some more now the flip type like IM phone is so in
Boyfriend : So what?? If I buy new one for you, you'll drop it and my poket only sakit.
Me : B ar, ayooo!!!
Boyfriend : Last time, when I wanna buy for you the Experia you said ' Nevermind B,my hp can still be use'. I know you'll regret one...
See what I mean...He can read my mind...*sad*
Last week and this week has been a tiring week... I hope it would be better next week...
i thought i was having dizziness...
Ok, went back home and did my freak work (sweeping the floor, thats what the Boyfriend call)...While I was sweeping, the Boyfriend said
Boyfriend: B, why the chair shaking ar?
Me : No la
Boyfriend : Ya la ( the Boyfriend sat quietly and I saw him craddling a 'lil bit...scary)
So I looked up at the ceiling and the fan was shaking. To confirmed again, I went and see the pail of water near to the kitchen to see whether it is shaky or not, and it did...Well, I panicked a while and opened the back door to see has anyone rushing down the stairs..No...Only a few families..It is not that bad when I first exeprience it back in 2005 or 2006 (I can't remember)...If you're moving around, you can't really feel..I felt dizzy but I did not say anything to the Boyfriend...I off the tv and asked the Boyfriend to go down...
Boyfriend : Ei, why you off the tv??
Me : Its earthquake la..Come go down...See, everyone is rushing down...I experienced this before..
Boyfriend : But you survived rite??..Its nothing one la...Faster, on the tv back..Hayoo...
So I switched on the TV back and continue with my sweeping and cooking...I cooked nasi minyak, ayam goreng berempah (tasted awful), and chicken curry(which tasted like....)..The Boyfriend enjoyed it though;-)..Thats why I like cooking...Going for Sentral Mooncake Festival with Khang and the Boyfriend...Surprisingly the Boyfriend agreed to tag along...I'm craving for.....free food...
Boyfriend: B, why the chair shaking ar?
Me : No la
Boyfriend : Ya la ( the Boyfriend sat quietly and I saw him craddling a 'lil bit...scary)
So I looked up at the ceiling and the fan was shaking. To confirmed again, I went and see the pail of water near to the kitchen to see whether it is shaky or not, and it did...Well, I panicked a while and opened the back door to see has anyone rushing down the stairs..No...Only a few families..It is not that bad when I first exeprience it back in 2005 or 2006 (I can't remember)...If you're moving around, you can't really feel..I felt dizzy but I did not say anything to the Boyfriend...I off the tv and asked the Boyfriend to go down...
Boyfriend : Ei, why you off the tv??
Me : Its earthquake la..Come go down...See, everyone is rushing down...I experienced this before..
Boyfriend : But you survived rite??..Its nothing one la...Faster, on the tv back..Hayoo...
So I switched on the TV back and continue with my sweeping and cooking...I cooked nasi minyak, ayam goreng berempah (tasted awful), and chicken curry(which tasted like....)..The Boyfriend enjoyed it though;-)..Thats why I like cooking...Going for Sentral Mooncake Festival with Khang and the Boyfriend...Surprisingly the Boyfriend agreed to tag along...I'm craving for.....free food...
high school reunion, convo and flashback
Well, I bumped into a page in FB... They posted pictures of Derma's reunion held in Putra Palace during the recent Hari Raya..It was f***ing huge and happening!!! and guess what, I added Ariff Merican (lots of history with him, should not tell on my blog).....and Khairul Faiz...I was so anxious to tell Yana so I called her but no answer...Instead I called Alla (BFF) and we managed to talk halfway as I have tasks to complete...This is a huge story....!!!OMG!!!...He looked different...From the photos that I managed to view, he looked slimmer and handsome...Damn Yong, remember that you're some one else's Gf....Well, I do remember that...Even if I'm single, I'm soooooooo not going to hook up back with him...It was longggggggg story...and pathetic, nothing happy to remisnicense about....
But year 2002-2003 was years of my life...Hahahaha..Many things happen and it was a lesson to learnt...It was years back, eveything is history...
Back to the reunion...Talked to Alla(BFF) just now...So she said she chatted with Kamil yesterday and they were planning to do next year's reunion in Brasmana hotel and now itself I feel so excited...Given that mummy don't plan to celebrate Raya in Singapore or else I'll have to miss it...Anyway,looking back those good old days when all of us were in high school, we were not close, not to say talking to each other...Sometimes we don't even know each other's name!!! But during the reunion, we were all like good friends, it was a pleasure moment and I'm lovin' every piece of it...It was s*** fun...
Remembering my college years which filled with crying(can't find solution to account question:-p), laughing in mamak, movie during class(we did skip class,ok,who have not done that during college time??)...It was pure fun, those 'childish' arguments we had(stupid!!)..And now, everyone is graduating while me, stuck in this dead end job(i'm included in that graduation, don't get me wrong)..I'm soooo looking forward this coming convocation as my batch are in...So we'll definitely have the best of fun..
But year 2002-2003 was years of my life...Hahahaha..Many things happen and it was a lesson to learnt...It was years back, eveything is history...
Back to the reunion...Talked to Alla(BFF) just now...So she said she chatted with Kamil yesterday and they were planning to do next year's reunion in Brasmana hotel and now itself I feel so excited...Given that mummy don't plan to celebrate Raya in Singapore or else I'll have to miss it...Anyway,looking back those good old days when all of us were in high school, we were not close, not to say talking to each other...Sometimes we don't even know each other's name!!! But during the reunion, we were all like good friends, it was a pleasure moment and I'm lovin' every piece of it...It was s*** fun...
Remembering my college years which filled with crying(can't find solution to account question:-p), laughing in mamak, movie during class(we did skip class,ok,who have not done that during college time??)...It was pure fun, those 'childish' arguments we had(stupid!!)..And now, everyone is graduating while me, stuck in this dead end job(i'm included in that graduation, don't get me wrong)..I'm soooo looking forward this coming convocation as my batch are in...So we'll definitely have the best of fun..
It is not easy
Well, I 'm trying to make a come back on my blogshop but its kinda hard as it is selling really slow... But its not wrong to give it a try again rite??...Well, today is kinda laid back as I have finished some of the task in the morning..I hope there won't be any last minute request from anyone...I've been rushing through everything just to get some request done and it is tiring...It is 11am and I'm damn sleepy and boring...By the way, intake for Master's study in USM is open and I plan to visit the campus for a walk in application...Kind of nervous and I hope I managed to get it...
Asked the Boyfriend to send my bike for repair and pay bills....
Asked the Boyfriend to send my bike for repair and pay bills....
Polygamy is rubbish and not that I want to condemn
I read national news today through http://thestar.com.my/news/nation/ and I came across this title Here come the brides: Polygamy club woos Malaysians. It captured my attention as I thought maybe they are trying to tell a story about an old man marrying 2nd wife or so on... And there I see Kartika's name...She permitted her husband to marry a second wife as a reason that she and her husbands wants to help that poor lady...Read the full story below..
RAWANG: When she was practicing law, Kartini Maarof once went beyond the call of duty for her divorce client.
She arranged for Rohaya Mohamad, a mother of seven, to be married again - to Kartini's own husband.
The spouse they have shared for a decade is 43-year-old Ikramullah Ashaari, who has four wives and 17 children.
His 72-year-old father has 38 offspring from five marriages, without ever having flouted Islam's prescribed limit of four wives at a time.
Polygamy is legal for Muslims in Malaysia, though not widespread.
The Ashaari clan believes it should be.
Last month it launched a "Polygamy Club" that claims the noble aim of helping single mothers, reformed prostitutes and women who feel they are past the marrying age.
"We want to change the way people perceive polygamy, so that it will be seen as something beautiful instead of something disgusting," said Hatijah Aam, the founder of the club. She is the fourth wife of Ikramullah's father, Ashaari Muhammad.
Polygamy may seem out of place in an Asian democracy proud of its skyscrapers, high-tech skills and go-getter economy.
But it retains a foothold in this Muslim-majority country of 27 million where piety is deeply embedded and Muslims can be arrested for drinking alcohol or consorting with the opposite sex unless a couple is married.
The government also polices religious practice.
Ashaari, the family patriarch, used to head an Islamic sect that was banned in 1994 as heretical because it projected Ashaari as an absolver of sinners.
Most of the Polygamy Club members belonged to the sect, and there's nothing illegal about how they live now, so long as they're Muslims.
For the one-third of the population that isn't Muslim, polygamy is unlawful.
The practice used to be more common but has dwindled to an estimated 2 percent of all Muslim marriages as women have become freer and careers have opened up for them.
The polygamists point out that the Prophet Muhammad is thought to have married about a dozen women in his lifetime, including widows in need of protection.
"Some people treat polygamy as a laughing matter because they do not fully comprehend it," says Ikramullah, a jovial businessman and son of his father's first wife.
"But a community that practices it would know that it is not bizarre. In fact, you would be teased if you were a man with only one wife."
The club claims to number 300 husbands and 700 wives.
It hopes to cultivate examples of happy households to counter women's rights activists who say some spouses and children suffer in polygamous marriages.
Club members say polygamy deters adultery and would improve the marriage prospects of ex-prostitutes if more men were available to marry them.
But Shahrizat Abdul Jalil, the Muslim female minister in charge of family policy, says polygamy "is not a culture that is encouraged in our society."
Sisters in Islam, an advocacy group campaigning against polygamy, says it isn't good for women.
"If people choose to be monogamous, there are enough men for every woman," it said in a statement to The Associated Press.
One opponent of polygamy is a 42-year-old business executive who asked to be identified only as Sharifah.
She said she threatened to divorce her husband of nearly 15 years after he told her last year that he had fallen in love with a divorced mother of three, felt she needed help, and wanted to marry her.
"I felt like my fairy tale had ended," Sharifah said.
"He was my soul mate. ... I couldn't believe it was happening. Then I started to scream at him."
She said some people told her that agreeing to a second wife would secure her place in heaven.
But Sharifah, the breadwinner for her two children and jobless husband, refused to give in. The couple underwent marriage counseling and Sharifah's husband has promised not to marry the other woman.
"Women have to make a stand. We are getting more progressive. We know our rights," she said. "I will not enter into a polygamous marriage. I know I deserve better."
Kartini, 41, says polygamy has served her well; while she was busy arguing court cases, her husband's first wife would cook, clean and look after the children.
"The wives can complement each other," she said.
"Of course, you miss your husband and there are natural feelings of competition and jealousy at first.
But after a while, you try to become friends and you learn that you can share your problems with each other."
The club says most of its husbands keep each spouse in a home of her own unless the women agree to live under one roof. Many husbands rotate their days among households.
The tight-knit family is concentrated in Rawang, a town outside Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia's largest city.
They gather for religious holidays and other festivities, such as a recent "Family Day" where they performed songs for each other and picnicked.
They mingle easily in public, chatting and joking like any ordinary family.
The club is funded by the family's grocery stores, restaurants and other businesses. It plans to offer matchmaking, wedding planning and marriage counseling.
Hatijah, who became the patriarch's fourth wife in 1982, used to be skeptical of polygamy, and agreed to the marriage because she worried that at 27, she was getting too old to find a husband.
Now 54 and a mother of eight, she says: "What is wrong with sharing a husband? I've been doing so for nearly 30 years." - AP
In my personal opinion, not everyone is willing to share her husband including me, not to say staying together in the same house. Even when my current boyfriend looking at other girls 'boobs' in shopping malls sometimes (I know its normal for guys) makes me feel a little bit shaky, will I even let him find another girlfriend but at the same time seeing me as well?? Hello there, of course not...I know I'm not a perfect practitioner in my own religion but I know what is polygamy roughly...
Islam has emphasized that taking advantage of the permission of polygamy is conditional on the observance of several factors and circumstances -as it will be explained later. If the man lacks those material and moral conditions, or he is not competent enough to satisfy all of them, then he will not be eligible to take more than one wife.
In today's modern life, man no longer understand what polygamy is...They may say they married a second wife to help that lady but the actual fact is, lust, greed and sex...How many 2nd wife that you see that is at the same age as that man..Let me guess, not even 10%..What you see now is just and old man (age 50++ sometimes walking with a 20 years old woman) married to a young women...What the f***?....
For example, I used to have a bad relationship experience (it make me sick when I think about it)..He got another women and I caught him live at the cyber cafe as well as his profile pic with that girl up in MySpace!!!!...I dumped him (lucky me)..Imagine if I'd married to him??? My life would be miserable...But honestly, I don't lose anything for dumping him instead the other way round. Most man who married more than 1 wife is not financially fit...Some are just a low income employee and how the hell he say he's married according to polygamy guideline????This is the reason why I never want to find a Muslim soulmate...First experience was a blow for me so I'm not that stupid to repeat the same mistake..
There are a lot of factors to consider before taking up a second wife and I bet the man today have not thought about that..What they have in their mind is, younger wife, nicer body, better sex life....Don't you dare(men out there) saying that those things have not been in your mind!!! Nonsense....
RAWANG: When she was practicing law, Kartini Maarof once went beyond the call of duty for her divorce client.
She arranged for Rohaya Mohamad, a mother of seven, to be married again - to Kartini's own husband.
The spouse they have shared for a decade is 43-year-old Ikramullah Ashaari, who has four wives and 17 children.
His 72-year-old father has 38 offspring from five marriages, without ever having flouted Islam's prescribed limit of four wives at a time.
Polygamy is legal for Muslims in Malaysia, though not widespread.
The Ashaari clan believes it should be.
Last month it launched a "Polygamy Club" that claims the noble aim of helping single mothers, reformed prostitutes and women who feel they are past the marrying age.
"We want to change the way people perceive polygamy, so that it will be seen as something beautiful instead of something disgusting," said Hatijah Aam, the founder of the club. She is the fourth wife of Ikramullah's father, Ashaari Muhammad.
Polygamy may seem out of place in an Asian democracy proud of its skyscrapers, high-tech skills and go-getter economy.
But it retains a foothold in this Muslim-majority country of 27 million where piety is deeply embedded and Muslims can be arrested for drinking alcohol or consorting with the opposite sex unless a couple is married.
The government also polices religious practice.
Ashaari, the family patriarch, used to head an Islamic sect that was banned in 1994 as heretical because it projected Ashaari as an absolver of sinners.
Most of the Polygamy Club members belonged to the sect, and there's nothing illegal about how they live now, so long as they're Muslims.
For the one-third of the population that isn't Muslim, polygamy is unlawful.
The practice used to be more common but has dwindled to an estimated 2 percent of all Muslim marriages as women have become freer and careers have opened up for them.
The polygamists point out that the Prophet Muhammad is thought to have married about a dozen women in his lifetime, including widows in need of protection.
"Some people treat polygamy as a laughing matter because they do not fully comprehend it," says Ikramullah, a jovial businessman and son of his father's first wife.
"But a community that practices it would know that it is not bizarre. In fact, you would be teased if you were a man with only one wife."
The club claims to number 300 husbands and 700 wives.
It hopes to cultivate examples of happy households to counter women's rights activists who say some spouses and children suffer in polygamous marriages.
Club members say polygamy deters adultery and would improve the marriage prospects of ex-prostitutes if more men were available to marry them.
But Shahrizat Abdul Jalil, the Muslim female minister in charge of family policy, says polygamy "is not a culture that is encouraged in our society."
Sisters in Islam, an advocacy group campaigning against polygamy, says it isn't good for women.
"If people choose to be monogamous, there are enough men for every woman," it said in a statement to The Associated Press.
One opponent of polygamy is a 42-year-old business executive who asked to be identified only as Sharifah.
She said she threatened to divorce her husband of nearly 15 years after he told her last year that he had fallen in love with a divorced mother of three, felt she needed help, and wanted to marry her.
"I felt like my fairy tale had ended," Sharifah said.
"He was my soul mate. ... I couldn't believe it was happening. Then I started to scream at him."
She said some people told her that agreeing to a second wife would secure her place in heaven.
But Sharifah, the breadwinner for her two children and jobless husband, refused to give in. The couple underwent marriage counseling and Sharifah's husband has promised not to marry the other woman.
"Women have to make a stand. We are getting more progressive. We know our rights," she said. "I will not enter into a polygamous marriage. I know I deserve better."
Kartini, 41, says polygamy has served her well; while she was busy arguing court cases, her husband's first wife would cook, clean and look after the children.
"The wives can complement each other," she said.
"Of course, you miss your husband and there are natural feelings of competition and jealousy at first.
But after a while, you try to become friends and you learn that you can share your problems with each other."
The club says most of its husbands keep each spouse in a home of her own unless the women agree to live under one roof. Many husbands rotate their days among households.
The tight-knit family is concentrated in Rawang, a town outside Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia's largest city.
They gather for religious holidays and other festivities, such as a recent "Family Day" where they performed songs for each other and picnicked.
They mingle easily in public, chatting and joking like any ordinary family.
The club is funded by the family's grocery stores, restaurants and other businesses. It plans to offer matchmaking, wedding planning and marriage counseling.
Hatijah, who became the patriarch's fourth wife in 1982, used to be skeptical of polygamy, and agreed to the marriage because she worried that at 27, she was getting too old to find a husband.
Now 54 and a mother of eight, she says: "What is wrong with sharing a husband? I've been doing so for nearly 30 years." - AP
In my personal opinion, not everyone is willing to share her husband including me, not to say staying together in the same house. Even when my current boyfriend looking at other girls 'boobs' in shopping malls sometimes (I know its normal for guys) makes me feel a little bit shaky, will I even let him find another girlfriend but at the same time seeing me as well?? Hello there, of course not...I know I'm not a perfect practitioner in my own religion but I know what is polygamy roughly...
Islam has emphasized that taking advantage of the permission of polygamy is conditional on the observance of several factors and circumstances -as it will be explained later. If the man lacks those material and moral conditions, or he is not competent enough to satisfy all of them, then he will not be eligible to take more than one wife.
In today's modern life, man no longer understand what polygamy is...They may say they married a second wife to help that lady but the actual fact is, lust, greed and sex...How many 2nd wife that you see that is at the same age as that man..Let me guess, not even 10%..What you see now is just and old man (age 50++ sometimes walking with a 20 years old woman) married to a young women...What the f***?....
For example, I used to have a bad relationship experience (it make me sick when I think about it)..He got another women and I caught him live at the cyber cafe as well as his profile pic with that girl up in MySpace!!!!...I dumped him (lucky me)..Imagine if I'd married to him??? My life would be miserable...But honestly, I don't lose anything for dumping him instead the other way round. Most man who married more than 1 wife is not financially fit...Some are just a low income employee and how the hell he say he's married according to polygamy guideline????This is the reason why I never want to find a Muslim soulmate...First experience was a blow for me so I'm not that stupid to repeat the same mistake..
There are a lot of factors to consider before taking up a second wife and I bet the man today have not thought about that..What they have in their mind is, younger wife, nicer body, better sex life....Don't you dare(men out there) saying that those things have not been in your mind!!! Nonsense....
After raya posta nd I'm still laughing
I'm still in the mood of my ex-school reunion...It was havoc!!!..Imagined we talk till wee hours and everyone's eyes are like pandas...It was nice to see that everyone is happy...I don't feel like coming back to Penang as it was a fun day out with the group.. We were not close at all during high school but now it feels like we have known each other so close...
my eyes are like panda due to excessive raya celebrations and i'm not sure whether the Boyfriend can still recognise me or not
I did not imagine how awesome this year's raya will be..The family did not went back to Singapore this time....We had high school reunion in Bukit Air then continue chi chat at mamak till 2.30am!!!!..Went back and by the time, I slept, it was almost 4am!!!..Woke up at 10, and BFF and the rest came to pick me up for 'jalan raya'.....We 'beraya' until 7pm..Alla and me went back to my house to have shower and went out again for the reunion dinner till 11.30...Then all of us convoyed to mamak and sat down till 2.30am....Went back to sleep, got up the next morning, went for 'beraya' again and they decided to go karaoke till 3am!!!!...Supposed to be until 1.30am only!!!...But we had a blast....It was f***ing fun...
We really had fun up to the point of giving up walking for raya....
We really had fun up to the point of giving up walking for raya....
pre Raya and reunion, here I come!!!!!!!!
Wow, its like another 3 days before raya...Its adik's birthday today. Have not bought anything for her yet as not enough $ in hand (just as excuse)...Anyway, I'll save some money aside to buy her something nice...
I'm going back to Perlis tomorrow (took half day leave)..Fuh, I'm soooo excited...Sleep on my bed, hot shower, my own smelly bolster...Wah!!!! Bestnyer...Mummy's cooking my favourite, ayam masak merah, kurma daging and nasi minyak for our open house and I have to help her this time...Dah besar dah...Adoiii la...I hate the washing part...
Preparations for Hari Raya dah habis...Too bad that this year I did not buy any new shoes...Will be earing my old shoes (bought but never been worn)...
Not going back to Singapore this year..This mean no 'duit raya'...*sorb*
Btw, I'm currently addicted at reading people's blog and most of the blog stated what does the blogger likes to shop...I know they have the right to post anything as it is their blog but don't they feel its like bragging about themselves...Trying to show-off what they have in an indirect way??...Sick you know.
I'm going back to Perlis tomorrow (took half day leave)..Fuh, I'm soooo excited...Sleep on my bed, hot shower, my own smelly bolster...Wah!!!! Bestnyer...Mummy's cooking my favourite, ayam masak merah, kurma daging and nasi minyak for our open house and I have to help her this time...Dah besar dah...Adoiii la...I hate the washing part...
Preparations for Hari Raya dah habis...Too bad that this year I did not buy any new shoes...Will be earing my old shoes (bought but never been worn)...
Not going back to Singapore this year..This mean no 'duit raya'...*sorb*
Btw, I'm currently addicted at reading people's blog and most of the blog stated what does the blogger likes to shop...I know they have the right to post anything as it is their blog but don't they feel its like bragging about themselves...Trying to show-off what they have in an indirect way??...Sick you know.
Nak main bunga api..yeay yeay..heading back to hometown for raya this coming weekend
My best friend is heading back to Kedah today and I'm still stuck at work..Uurrgghh!!! She'll be driving down with her brother...So jealous she has a car....I'll be going back to Perlis on Friday afternoon. Not sure whether will ask the Boyfriend to send me until Alor Star or I'll be going straight by bus to Perlis...Anyway as long as I reach home...
I'm sooooooo friggin excited about the reunion on Monday (21st Sept). We'll be having reunion with some of my exschool mate (SMKPutra). Some of them might be bringing their kids and husband... It still feels like we just finished our high school last year (nonsense!!!)..How time waits for no one ;-(...But yet, evryone of us still managed to keep in touch...People that I never used to like has now become friends. It was childish I can say but that was years back..See how adulthood can make people change now...
Work wise????? Still hangin' on but so desperate for other job...I searched through Intel page and saw a few vacancy that require Degree in BBA/Finance or something similar to it...I meet the requirement but attending the interview is another nightmare...I'm not afraid of public speaking ( i know i'm weird)....The questions they ask are like subjects that I studied in my first term of degree or diploma years....How could I remember...GOSH!!!...I'm interested, and its part of my plan to work in the finance industry....But, the process of getting there is not like what I have in mind....
I'm sooooooo friggin excited about the reunion on Monday (21st Sept). We'll be having reunion with some of my exschool mate (SMKPutra). Some of them might be bringing their kids and husband... It still feels like we just finished our high school last year (nonsense!!!)..How time waits for no one ;-(...But yet, evryone of us still managed to keep in touch...People that I never used to like has now become friends. It was childish I can say but that was years back..See how adulthood can make people change now...
Work wise????? Still hangin' on but so desperate for other job...I searched through Intel page and saw a few vacancy that require Degree in BBA/Finance or something similar to it...I meet the requirement but attending the interview is another nightmare...I'm not afraid of public speaking ( i know i'm weird)....The questions they ask are like subjects that I studied in my first term of degree or diploma years....How could I remember...GOSH!!!...I'm interested, and its part of my plan to work in the finance industry....But, the process of getting there is not like what I have in mind....
Syawal kian tiba
Syawal is this Sunday and I'm so excited...Excited to meet my old friends..We studied in the same school 8 years ago (it shows that I'm getting older)..Going back to Perlis on Friday as I took half day....I hope its not jam or the bus ticket is sold out...If not, the Boyfriend will have to send me all the way to Alor Star...Anyway, even if there's ticket available, I still ask the Boyfriend to send me (not always ok, I'm not that cruel)....
Anyway, I would like to take this opportunity to wish all my friends ( ex-SmkPutra, ex-classmate UNITAR 2004-2009 batch, former Maxis colleague, former Celebrity Fitness colleague) a very Happy Syawal...May this Syawal bring happiness and prosperity to you and your family...Maaf zahir dan batin...
Anyway, I would like to take this opportunity to wish all my friends ( ex-SmkPutra, ex-classmate UNITAR 2004-2009 batch, former Maxis colleague, former Celebrity Fitness colleague) a very Happy Syawal...May this Syawal bring happiness and prosperity to you and your family...Maaf zahir dan batin...
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